Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s our responsibility!
You’re out for a girl’s night, having a great time, laughing, and enjoying a glass of wine and your phone rings. It’s your little one, crying and asking if you can come home. Dad’s there and he’s completely capable of taking care of your daughter. There’s no NEED for you to go home. But you feel guilty that you’re out and you “should” be there taking care of her. You’re her mommy. You feel the pull to leave and yet you really want to stay with your friends – you’re having so much fun.
You aren’t alone. Many moms feel a little guilty (or a lot guilty) when they do things for themselves, especially when it means they aren’t doing something with or for their kids.
Let me help you see it from a different perspective.
You’re their teacher and you teach them with your actions and who you ARE more than what you say. So, when you constantly put your own needs aside for others (even your kids’), your kids learn to devalue themselves…to believe that in some way other people’s needs and feelings are more important than them and their needs and feelings.
From that point of view, we could argue that it’s a gift to our kids when we find ways to fulfill ourselves and take care of our own emotional health. Yea?
Grab some new ideas below:
Outside / Out of the House
- going for a walk
- going for a hike
- laying in a hammock
- sitting in nature
- getting outside and just doing something!
- calling a friend and grab coffee, tea, or lunch
- walking your dog
- getting your hair done
- getting a manicure/pedicure
- going to a local cafe and eating alone
- weeding (if you like that sorta thing lol)
- going out with friends
- gathering flowers from your garden
- looking at the clouds
- listening to live music
- going on an adventure
- flying a kite
- going on a picnic
- going on date nights
- going to the ocean and putting your feet in the sand
- taking a bath
- cooking a healthy meal and then mindfully eating it
- sleeping – go to sleep early or take a nap
- burning candles
- waking up naturally–no alarm clock
- snuggling in your bed
- taking a long shower
- decorating your home
- sitting in front of the fireplace
- curling up on the couch and binge-watching Netflix shows
- reading inspirational quotes
- getting up early to spend time alone
- trying something new
- creating something
- coloring in a coloring book
- doing a guided meditation
- listening to music
- writing in a gratitude journal
- calling a friend
- choosing to eat healthier
- drinking water mindfully
- scheduling time to yourself every day
- reading educational or inspirational blogs
- reading for pleasure
- listening to an inspirational podcast
- listening to an audio book
- doing yoga
- taking online classes
- reading novels
- asking for what I need
- drinking a coffee or tea with no distractions
- eating dark chocolate
- sitting quietly and breathing
- watching a good movie
- joining a book club
- getting massages
- working with a life coach or therapist
- art journaling
- practicing forgiveness (towards myself and others)
- a glass of wine
- dressing up nice
- a good laugh!
- a good cry!
- planning a trip
- putting on makeup
- petting your animal
- allowing yourself to feel your feelings
- power hour – focusing on getting some things done
- helping someone else
- spending a day offline
- looking through photo albums
- reading the newspaper
- writing a love note to yourself
- having sex
- diffuse essential oils
- play a musical instrument
ACTION: Pick a few and actually add them to your calendar this week. Guilt-free!
I am a huge fan of self-care and think we should all carve out more time for ourselves. But the truth is, doing things for ourselves is just one part of really taking care of ourselves. Self-care actions are like self-care 101. In order to truly care for ourselves, we need to learn to forgive ourselves, have compassion towards ourselves, freely allow ourselves the space to feel our feelings, accept ourselves as we are, and actively regard ourselves with love and appreciation. Stick with me and we’ll explore these steps more!
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Please add your favorite self-care suggestions below in the comments! Thanks!