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What’s in the way IS the way

Life happens, it’s how we respond that matters. It’s what we do with what life hands us.

Humanity will never be whole and healed unless and until each of us remembers who we are, why we are here and gets on our own life path. We’re being called to take our place in this thing called life – to wake up and to show up. To see that life’s challenges are the fodder for our growth, for discovering what’s true for us, for healing from our pasts and for knowing how to move forward.

You are humanity’s greatest hope.

I’m the kind of person who likes to explore at the edges. I question things, I’m comfortable with change, and I try to be courageous.  I crave truth over ego and I’m a catalyst, an activator and a motivator. I often see things differently than others and I always see limitless possibilities and an expanded view of whatever I’m exploring. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been called to the path less traveled. More often than not, that means I’m pushed out of my comfort zone.

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Here’s my story…

At 39, I was at my lowest point – my darkest days.

We moved to the San Francisco Bay Area from Connecticut in 2004 and soon after, had our second child. No one in my family leaves the East Coast. Except me. It’s like me though – I have always been the one who did things differently…who would prove that I could do it. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a community to rely on – we didn’t know anyone. But I didn’t think I needed that anyway – high-functioning, independent, hard-working, ‘get shit done’ kinda woman that I was…I didn’t need anyone.

I felt pretty good, albeit isolated, but thought I had a handle on things. No matter what curve-balls I was thrown – milk intolerance, babies that nursed every 90 minutes until they were 9 months old, acid reflux, a baby that cried whenever he wasn’t nursing for 6 months – I persevered…in the name of love! I over-focused on my kids and under-focused on everything else, including myself and my marriage. I justified this in my mind – of course, this is what all moms do. We give and give and give because that’s just what you do.

For a while, this was great and I was basking in mama-hood and enjoying being able to spend all of my moments with my precious kiddos. Until one day, I realized that something felt wrong. Well, even then, I kept on giving. This went on for a couple of years.

I thought that my kids needed me to keep my shit together so I just held on tight and kept smiling.

I thought that maybe if I did more – more parks, more museums, healthier food, more volunteering at school, etc. – it would get better, I would feel better. I even did more things for myself – more girls’ nights, get a babysitter for 2 hours per week so I could have “me” time, exercised more. Nope, still, something felt wrong. More time passed.

I thought that when the kids started school and I had more time to myself that I would begin to feel better. But I didn’t. I felt worse. Now I had to deal with the social factors of school…it was as if I was back in school. The pressure to conform, the deep desire to belong, the disappointment when I didn’t feel like I belonged, the fear that I said the wrong thing, the birthday parties we (I mean my kids) weren’t invited to, the hurt feelings, and the other mental chatter that consumed my brain. I could no longer keep it together and keep smiling. This was big, I ALWAYS kept smiling for every year of my life since I can remember. From everyone else’s perspective, I had a pretty darn good life. It’s true. I live in a beautiful area and have great kids…I have a husband who is a terrific dad who works hard to support our family and enabled me to comfortably stay at home with our kids for nine years, I have a beautiful home and nice cars, and we eat out at nice restaurants and buy organic foods.

But, at night, I wondered, is this it?

I felt a profound sense of restlessness and aloneness. Yet I was rarely actually alone (and at this point I had lots of friends). I felt bored. Yet I never actually had any free time. I felt numb. Why, I asked? Why do I feel a sense of numbness? Why do I feel like my life is dull and bland and lacks any sense of excitement? I remember times when I was alone and I even felt like I wasn’t connected to my life in some strange way – “who is this living my life?” I wondered.

So, I started searching. But I didn’t reach out for help. I just stayed in my head (biiiggg mistake, I would later learn) and looked externally for what would make me feel better. No one knew that I was falling apart inside – even my husband barely knew. I read books. I analyzed my life. The first thing I “decided” was that we needed to move. So, we toured Colorado…we contemplated what it would be like to move. Fortunately, it was not the right place for us so we didn’t make a drastic move. I know now that would not have satisfied my longing.

Back to the drawing board…what really IS wrong?

I began to spiral to darker places. At this point it appeared to me that my marriage was the problem (still blaming and looking outside of myself). It’s true, it was rocky. It was not fulfilling for either of us. For a while, I justified that it was normal – all parents feel disconnected while raising young children, right? Soon, however, I “decided” that my marriage really was the root of the problem.

At this point, I nearly lost my marriage (and my mind).

Fortunately, my husband had the strength to tell me “No” when I was utterly unable to see the situation rationally. In fact, he told me in these words exactly: “you do not have the right to leave this marriage.” Holy shit! He really woke me up. Honestly, I was pretty pissed off. But I agreed. We have two kids for God’s sake. So, I committed right then and there to work on things. In the beginning it was just a mental commitment – like you would do when you go on a diet or something. My heart was not in it. But I decided to fake it until I made it.

For three years, we went to marriage counseling for 2 hours per week every week. Yes, my husband rocks. We began excavating our emotional lives.

“People frustrate us and let us down. Not because we aren’t lovable, but because we rely on them to do our job of loving us. We must accept that our lovability and worth doesn’t come from others. It comes from within!”

-Sonia Choquette

While working with our marriage counselor, it became clear to me that my husband was never the problem (well, sometimes lol). The most empowering realization I had was that it was all inside me. I realized that my happiness is not dependent on others, rather it was coming from inside me. What? Yes, indeed, my misery was because my inner world was miserable, I was knee-deep in my own emotional pain. My outside perspective of the world was just a reflection of how I was feeling inside. Yikes! Well, that certainly changed things. This meant that I, alone, could follow my own joy and begin to feel more happy. It was up to me.

So began my journey – first of self-discovery, then of healing, then of self-acceptance, and now self-love.

“People are searching, but can’t articulate what they are searching for. What they are searching for is the courage to be who they are and to act on their own impulses, to be a deeper expression of themselves.” 

-Caroline Myss, I Can Do It! Conference in San Jose 2013

I believe that I was searching for this courage that Caroline Myss mentions. The dissonance I felt years ago became increasingly more uncomfortable until it became unbearable. I’m so grateful that it got so painful that I had to do something about it – I had to find this courage – because it is what has brought me to the fulfilling, free and harmonious place where I am in my life now.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

~Rumi

In looking back, I can see more clearly now that I was living in a space of “should-ing” on myself – feeling like I needed to be what other people expected of me or wanted me to be. I had been bullied as a teenager, so the more I was with groups of women (specifically, when the kids started school), the more triggered I felt – fearing that if I don’t behave the “right way” or if I say something wrong or if I stand up for myself – the risks are dire. I protected myself, I stopped allowing myself to feel the feelings that were coming up for me around my past (and present). I was not fully showing up as myself.

I also was a compulsive approval-seeker. I bounced back and forth between a superiority complex (I’m better than others) and an inferiority complex (everyone is better than me). This meant I bounced between judgement and self-criticism. Then, layer on my desire to be kind to everyone. There I was being kind and smiley to others but feeling judgy, fearful, worried, critical, and approval-seeking inside. It was a recipe for disaster. But I began healing, one trigger at a time…and one judgement at a time. I wanted this:

“Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.” ― Barbara De Angelis

…but I had no idea how to actually live that way. I felt too scared.

Over the past decade I’ve been circling back up that spiral from darkness to light, from thinking to feeling, from fear to love. Along the way I discovered the angry me, the people-pleasing me, the tender me, the self-doubting me and many other pieces and parts. Each time, I pick up the piece and put it back where it belongs within me – integrating and loving more of me along the way. I no longer feel alone. I’m living my path and know how to get on when I fall off, live in integrity with my values and who I am more times than not, and let life be my teacher every day. Oh, and for those of you wondering – we made it through.  I’m happily married. Most of the time. 😉

 

What I’m saying is that there is a better way to do life.

xo,

deb blum

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I envision a future where children are raised with respect and care, where our priority is to raise securely attached, emotionally healthy, inspired children into thriving adults capable of having close relationships.

I also envision a future where everyone understands that most of us have experienced trauma in our lives and that trauma has us living in our survival brains, disconnected from our true selves, our true nature AND that there is a way out. We can all learn to reconnect to ourselves and live a life filled with vitality and connection.

The world is begging all of us to show up fully and be our own unique people on our own unique paths. But there are all sorts of reasons why this doesn’t happen. The world is not set up for us to live THIS fully (yet), but we’re the trailblazers who are finding our own path, living on our own terms, busting through all of the stories that we should preserve the status quo…and instead, going against the grain and exploring new territories.

Whether that’s through healing your trauma, choosing to raise your kids in the way you know is best for them, launching a business so you can bring more balance to your life, quitting your job or standing up to your mother-in-law. Whatever it is, I know it’s hard and takes a bucketload of courage to do this.

 

I call this:

#insideoutactivism

9 things about me

#1 I’m a natural connector

Which means I love referring people (and resources) to everyone! The way I look at it: It’s paying life forward in the most rewarding way.

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#2 I’m a total geek

And I thrive on creatively solving problems. My specialty? Blending big ideas with practical strategy for optimal results. I love ideation and I’m totally a gritty visionary. Because I embrace change, I’m giddy over the prospects for our future…I see so much amazingness in these upcoming generations of kids and I want to help everyone embrace this new world and get excited about the potential for awesome stuff to happen in our kids’ lifetimes!

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#3 I’m an uber goofball

I’m silly. I’m learning to bring more silliness into my life outside my home and I’m finding it to be a big edge-pusher for me. But ask my kids and they will admit that I’m totally weird and goofy, and on a good day they will admit that they love it ?

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#4 I am the quintessential multi-passionate entrepreneur and a 7 on the Enneagram

I have way more ideas than I will ever be able to implement in my lifetime. My husband jokes that it scares him to imagine being in my brain. I am absolutely an eternal optimist, I see the potential in everything, I believe wholeheartedly that we can choose happiness and create our lives and I hope that in some way I will positively impact thousands of people’s lives in my next 40+ years in this life of mine.

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#5 In my spare time, I can be found…

Hiking the local trails or enjoying a decaf soy latte with friends, voraciously reading crazy amounts of books on my Kindle paperwhite (usually all at the same time), with my own life or business coach, walking listening to a podcast, doing yoga, easy mountain biking with my family, sitting quietly on my cushion, geeking out on one of my way-too-many computers, skiing in Tahoe, watching movies, or volunteering in the community. The three things I’d like to never give up would be my iPhone, my housecleaner (spoiled I know), and organic peanut butter (or Trader Joe’s Dark Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups!).

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#6 I love being a mom.

I think I am mostly pretty good at it. The truth is, I cut myself a lot of slack. My kids eat cereal (and, on occasion, ice cream sundaes) for dinner sometimes, they used to skip showers even when they were dirty, I gave my kids iPhones when they were 10 (gasp), I let them sneak in my bed at night until they stopped on their own (and they totally slept with us when they were babies), I swear and I even let them swear when they are really mad, I am not much of a punisher, they play first-person shooter video games and each own their own computers, and I used to let them watch extra TV so I could sneak in some snuggles on the couch with them. I am FAR from perfect, and they know I am far from perfect…they watch me mess up, get mad, cry, need help, work hard, slack off, be spontaneous and BE REAL. I own my shit though – if I mess up, I tell them and we work through it together – like adults would in real life. And they know that I love them SO. FREAKIN’. MUCH. And they know that I genuinely love to have them around. The “being real” part, the loving them part, and the wanting them to be around part – those feel most important. I subscribe to a “relationship-first” parenting style. I do the best I can to always ensure that what I say and do is in the best interest of preserving or enhancing my relationship with them and I try to live a life that will inspire them.

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#7 I have been working on this thing they call meditation for 7+ years and, my God, it’s hard.

But I am getting better at it and I can sometimes quiet my mind for a few seconds at a time now. But seriously, it’s been an amazing addition to my life, but it’s been a journey for sure! More recently, I’ve been journaling which is the perfect style of meditation for me – blending watching my thoughts with inquiry.

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#8 I am proud of the sweet life I have created

And the work I have done on my own journey back home to myself, my essence. It’s been a freakin’ amazing ride and I am super deeply grateful for the coaches, teachers, family, friends, mentors, therapists, and other people who have supported, inspired, and challenged me to be the best “me” I could be. Love them! And of course, thanks a zillion times over to my husband who stuck with me during some really turbulent times and my kiddos who put up with (and secretly love) my weirdness. My gratitude overwhelms me.

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#9 I love kids (and teenagers).

I love love love their awesome curiosity and open minds. They fascinate me. I hate to watch them get conditioned out of their uniqueness and into conformity. I want them to be raised in homes where their parents love themselves so much that they give their kids permission to fully be themselves and to reach for the stars! I am on a mission to bring more empathy, consciousness, and authenticity to the world where we all can see each other for our unique selves and allow each of us to BE OURSELVES. No lie, it’s the ONLY path to happiness and the feeling of fulfillment in life. While I am on that path myself, I have seen it time after time so it’s not just my opinion…it’s time-tested and proven.

This Great Adventure

The Questionnaire

Who would you take on a hike if you could?

Russell Brand, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Byron Katie, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Pema Chodran, Carl Jung, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Dr. Gabor Mate, Gay Hendricks, John Bradshaw, Thomas Hubl, Daniel Schmachtenburger, Jordan B. Peterson, Ken Wilber, Michelle Obama, and of course who wouldn’t want to hike with Oprah 🙂

Where's your fantasy vacation?

Fiji, Bora Bora or Bali

Guilty Pleasures?

Chocolate, ice cream, endless podcasts, reading a book, watching movies, lazing around

What's on TV?

I like watching movies and sometimes get hooked on a Netflix series like Gilmore Girls or Parenthood. But honestly, our TV often doesn’t get turned on for weeks in our house these days.

Where do you shop?

I’m into comfort and things that make my life easier… Whole Foods through Amazon Prime, Amazon, Apple, Athleta, Zappos, Z Supply.

Where do you live?

I live in Larkspur, California, but I’m from South Windsor, Connecticut

How do you explore on the daily?

I always spend a little time with my teens before they bike/walk to school. Next up – a quick BeachBody workout, a little meditation and journaling and a shower. Then it’s time to work. I love my days when I have a lunch scheduled with a friend or a coffee date. I try to be home when the kids get home from school. And we try to do family dinners most nights, even if we can’t all be together until 8pm.

“We have more possibilities available in each moment than we realize.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh

How I work around here

My Core Values

TRAUMA HEALING & Creating psychological safety
EXPANDING MY CONSCIOUSNESS
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY (AKA OWNING MY SHIT)
THE PURSUIT OF TRUTH
RADICAL ACCEPTANCE OF MYSELF & OTHERS
PRIORITIZING CHILDREN & FAMILY
Relationships & Coming together
VIEWPOINT DIVERSITY & GENERATIVE SOLUTIONS
LIVING IN INTEGRITY WITH MYSELF

Kind words from my kind of people…

“Probably the most impressive thing about Deb is her ability to take any situation I bring to her and help me find concrete, practical ways to successfully navigate through it.”

“I met Deb in 2016 at a community support group for parents of children with special needs. I was immediately impressed by her empathetic nature and ability to tap into the emotional needs of the parents in the group, including myself. A few months later I found myself at a crossroads and contemplating a career change. I reached out to Deb, hoping for assistance as I figured out my next move. I knew she was a coach and while I had never worked with a coach, and I did not exactly know what a coach did, I thought she would be able to help me clarify what I really wanted to accomplish professionally. 

I started working with Deb to clarify my career goals, and it evolved into much more. She has helped me look at my life holistically, and identify who I am, and what kind of life I want. She has coached me on how to live my life more authentically and build a life that is more in line with my true nature and goals. I had heard the phrase “living with intention” and that is what Deb has helped me do.

She asks thought provoking questions, such as “what exactly does success looks like to you?” Success as a parent, success in my marriage, success in my career. What would that feel like on a daily basis? She helped me identify what I am looking to accomplish and how I can get there.

Probably the most impressive thing about Deb is her ability to take any situation I bring to her and help me find concrete, practical ways to successfully navigate through it. Whether I need emotional support or more practical advice for how to manage my day, Deb always has effective strategies and ideas. Better yet, she coaches me on how I can provide that support to myself.

There is also a spiritual element to what Deb does and I as embraced this, I saw significant changes in my life. I was responding differently to stressful situations, and seeing opportunities for growth and healing where I normally would only see obstacles.

Deb is very talented at helping individuals find and create their own path in life. She coaches clients to change their thinking through powerful self-work, self-compassion and self-love. I highly recommend Deb as a coach and thank her for the continuing awareness and support.” ~ Catherine Gargaro Kennings

“Could not say enough about her skill, care and love with gentleness and fierceness…”

“Could not say enough about her skill, care, and love with gentleness and fierceness both which I needed. She’s got me connected to my self and inner child that I couldn’t access as a skeptic. I’m so grateful we found her.” ~ Toni

“I could not recommend working with this power house mama more strongly if you want to do some gritty and gratifying self-work that I’m certain will help you lead a more fulfilling life.”

“Have you ever had one of those moments where the exact right person entered your life at the exactly perfect time? That’s how I felt when I met Deb. When we met I was at the tail of a high conflict divorce with two children under the age of 4 and 3 part-time jobs. While I was starting to feel grounded in some areas of my life I was still spinning with overwhelm and lack of clarity on how to proceed, how to move forward with getting my life back and juggling what seemed like a Herculean list of responsibilities.

Deb helped me map out (literally) everything I hold responsibility for in my life and create a road map of baby steps to get myself grounded, rooted, and authentically living a life more in tune with myself. She has a keen ability to truly listen and tease out key insights that accurately characterized my strengths and my areas for growth. Speaking of growth, I also really appreciated when she called me out (in a very kind and gentle way) when I said I thought I was pretty good at flowing through my life (when clearly I have plenty of areas of being stuck and stagnant).
Deb’s approach to parenting also really helped me with some challenging situations. She has such a wealth of wisdom in this arena as well as fabulous books to recommend on the subject of conscious parenting. She led me to the profound realization that parenting really isn’t about parenting my children, it is about parenting myself.
Above all, Deb lit a fire of determination in me to speak stronger, louder and more inviting truths. She helped me stretch my operational range of emotions and create tangible paths out of murky and muddy waters.
Deb is a bright light in a sometimes, very dark and stressful world. Her gift of helping women see their strengths, stretch themselves to grow, and be their authentic selves is perhaps one of the greatest gifts that anyone can receive. I could not recommend working with this power house mama more strongly if you want to do some gritty and gratifying self-work that I’m certain will help you lead a more fulfilling life.” ~ Amy Rice-Jones

“Deb has shown me the path to self-love and healing. My life changed when my best friend introduced us.”

We all have issues we are trying to work on, whether it is everyday relationships, childhood trauma, or family issues. I have done a lot of therapy over the years and I always find myself saying “Why can’t someone just give me the tools I need to be happier and more peaceful?” I was tired of going over the issues.

We know our issues, but how do we move past them and find happiness? Deb was my answer and I could never be more grateful to another person. She has helped teach me how to save me from myself. If I can’t love me how can someone else? Deb has shown me the path to self-love and healing. My life changed when my best friend introduced us. Change is not easy and nothing happens overnight but when you actually feel like you are a part of life happening, being in the moment, and learning to accept love not only from others but from yourself, you realize it’s all worth it.

I have good days and bad days but the good outweigh the bad and the bad isn’t all that bad anymore. I have never been happier in my life than I am now. If you’re thinking about working with Deb, I highly recommend it!” ~ Alicia Goldstein

“Deb can really help you discover and create what you want most in your life.”

“I felt very ‘at ease’ to work with Deb – she is so genuine and authentic and anyone would feel so welcome around her. During our work together, I moved forward in my business start up. With Deb’s guidance I hired a website designer and tapped into many resources that Deb referred me to to help me set a firm foundation to start my business. I truly enjoyed Deb’s abundance of wisdom, resources and, most of all, her compassion. We used a tool called Basecamp that was really helpful – I could look back at what we discussed in our session if I forgot and it kept me on track towards my goals. I would absolutely recommend Deb to my mom friends who are needing some support, women entrepreneurs starting a business or anyone who just wanted a new career and was not sure where to start. Deb can really help you discover and create what you want most in your life!” ~ Heather Heselton, Relationship Coach, http://www.heatherheselton.com

“I feel lighter, inspired, and most importantly on my way to the happy person I was before three kids…and a more fulfilled soul.”

Deb’s “Authentic Connection Circle” has changed my life. I am a busy mom of three kids. I felt disconnected, overwhelmed and anxious when I came to Deb’s circle. Deb has given me a warm, calm, and safe environment to address my stress. I am now working with Deb, and I feel lighter, inspired and most importantly on my way to the happy person I was before three kids. Deb has given me specific guidance and direction towards a more fulfilled soul. I don’t feel stuck in mud anymore. I am moving forward and I feel great. Deb is the kindest person and I feel very supported. I highly recommend Deb to all moms, as Deb has a huge heart and a true gift to heal anyone that seeks her guidance! ~ Leya Bogert

“Deb helped me gain clarity on my identity….I have actualized what I identified and visualized in our work together…my life has changed for the better since working with Deb.”

“I was unsure about seeing a life coach when I first started with Deb. However, I didn’t feel that traditional therapy was right for what I was trying to accomplish – getting unstuck. As a result of working with Deb, I achieved a lot of clarity of self. One of my goals was to figure out “who I am” after getting married, having a child and a change in my work situation. Deb helped me gain clarity on my “identity” and together we worked on identifying and visualizing what my ideal work situation would be. Months later, I look back and realize that I have actualized what I identified and visualized in our work together. Although I no longer feel stuck, I realize that my life is still a work in progress. I really liked working with Deb because she understood my goals. She was on the same wave-length as me. In fact, I often felt like she “got” something right before I did, or was a couple of steps ahead, or was reading my thoughts! Deb has an easy conversational style. I also appreciate that Deb is so well read and up to date on relevant issues and is always able to connect them back to me and where I am in my life. I would definitely recommend Deb’s services to anyone feeling stuck as a parent (mother) trying to go back to work or have work/life balance, anyone feeling stuck in their marriage or disconnected from their husband after kids, or anyone at any point in their life where they want to be their authentic self but don’t know how to get there. I definitely feel like my life has changed for the better since working with Deb.” ~Amy M.

“She taught me how to see and listen to myself with love.”

“My connection with Deb was instant and deep – she has a true gift for seeing people and reflecting back in a supportive and actionable way. She is the best friend you never knew you had. I was inspired to work with Deb because she has done her own work and she has all of the tools to help you get closer to yourself. I am more of myself thanks to Deb. She taught me how to see and listen to myself with love. I have less fear about the future, less anger about the past, and one more dear friend.”  ~ Amy D.

“Deb’s life coaching has drastically transformed the quality of my life. I am living a life that is rich, joyous, peaceful and exactly how I want it to be.”

“Deb’s life coaching has drastically transformed the quality of my life.  I’ve explored with Deb the emotional obstacles standing in my way, and together within a safe and loving environment, we’ve dealt with them and removed them.  I now feel I’m living a life that is rich, joyous, peaceful, and exactly how I want it to be – it’s not perfect, but learning to manage life’s daily challenges without turning upside down has brought me so much inner confidence and a feeling of being in control of my life.  I’ve learned the power of daily gratitudes, affirmations and tuning into my spiritual side – these have proven to be powerful tools not only in maintaining daily emotional health but also finding my sense of purpose and meaning in life. Deb has taught me how to open myself up to others in a safe and healthy way, leading me to fulfillment in my relationships with friends and family, instead of frustration.  Deb will meet you where you are, explore the fears,doubts and concerns that prevent you from experiencing life’s joy, and offer wise guidance on how to live the life you’re meant to.” ~ A.C.

“I literally felt I was building my inner strength and confidence in a matter of just days…my negative mindset shifted…I am able to face hardships with a positive attitude.”

“I met Deb through a referral from a good friend, in a time of my life where I felt lost and stuck with no positive energy at all. It was a couple of months ago, where I had so many questions piled up in me for years for which I had no answers. I needed a different perspective, a way to find some answers, to be motivated and act in a positive way.

I had my first session with Deb two months ago, when I gave in to the thought of talking to someone who is a professional in counseling. It was a hard choice at first to seek help through counseling, but soon realized It was for MY benefit. It turned out to be one of the best decisions I made for myself this year. As our conversation went on, I felt safe very soon with Deb. Her positive energy just poured as we were talking. I literally felt I was building my inner strength and confidence in a matter of just days. Suddenly I realized my negative mindset shifted. Positive energy took over, fun and curiosity followed. For the first time in months I was finally getting out of my negative mindset. Since our sessions started I experienced physical changes in my life. Our sessions changed my negative energy into a more positive one. This way of being attracted new friends and brought more focus to my life. Most importantly, through this new experience I am able to face hardships with a positive attitude. Every week, on the day of our session I look forward to talking to Deb and would recommend her to anyone who would like to make a positive change in their life. I am very grateful for meeting her and I wish for more people to experience a change like I did.”  ~ Attila Bodo-Vass

“She has helped me to transform my life. I am more happy and at peace.”

“I’ve only been seeing Deb for a few months now, but she has really helped to transform my life.  I was in a slump personally and professionally, and I am now more motivated in my business and more happy and at peace in my personal life.   Deb has helped me focus on what’s important and to accept what is. Every time I leave her office, I feel lighter and content. She has such a warm and caring way in her approach, and I would highly recommend her.”  ~ Lynn Werner, www.lynnina.com

“I definitely feel that my stress level has declined considerably form where it was a year ago…I am kinder to myself and making more time for myself.”

“Deb’s style is very gentle, supportive and warm. She is terrific at breaking the challenges down into bite-size pieces and offering suggestions to overcome challenges. Many times making change feels so overwhelming that many of us just back away from making the change. Instead, she has an ability to help the person with baby steps that make challenges seems manageable.  I feel I have grown in my ability to manage a number of factors in my life. I definitely feel that my stress level has declined considerably from where it was a year ago and I believe the work I have done with Deb has greatly contributed toward that. I have noticed that I am “kinder” to myself and making more time for myself. I would definitely say that I feel more peaceful generally.” ~ A Working Mom of Two Tween Boys

“I come away [from our group] feeling like I can see my life more clearly – both how it is and how I am and how I want to be.”

“I would describe our work together as a combination between life coaching, spiritual guidance, and insight work. You have a great mix of practical suggestions and philosophical perspective; I come away feeling like I can see my life more clearly–both how it is–and how I am–and how I want to be. I love the meditation, the exercises, and the discussion–these are all tangible ways to delve deeper and truly see what’s going on. It helps that you’re very real, and very honest about your own path–this makes it feel more like clarity and happiness are attainable. It also helps that you’re just a joy to be around!” ~ A Conscientious Mom of a Young Boy and Girl (Group Coaching)

“She stretches me in directions I have never stretched before…helped me see how interconnected everything is on a much deeper level than I ever thought possible. The result is that everything has become seamless.”

“Before working with Deb, I had the sense that everything in my life was increasingly out-of-focus.  Eating? Generally good but sometimes really, really bad. Drinking? No comment. Exercise? Ummmm, does carting around a giant toddler count?  I felt like I was going in 900 directions every minute of every day. Exhausted and overwhelmed, I was at the end of my rope.

I knew something had to change, something outside the supposed normal realm of medicine or psychiatry or nutrition.  I wanted to get someone on my team, someone who had no agenda other than helping me figure out what was going on. I was tired of putting everything to do with me on the back burner. It was time to become the best person I could be. Enter Deb.  With her kind spirit, incredible knowledge and clear vision, she helps me put together the puzzle that is me. She stretches me in directions I have never stretched before, knocking down barriers and forging new paths. She helps me see things clearly, gives me just enough information to turn everything I thought I knew on it’s head (in a positive way!) and supports me as I figure out how to make it all work.  And that’s the best part of the whole process: it works. My old out-of-focus life that was spinning out of control is firmly in the past. Deb has helped me see how interconnected everything is on a much deeper level than I ever thought possible. The result is that everything has become seamless. Eating? Fabulous. Lots of greens, lots of healthy fats, lots of smiles at the dinner table. Drinking? Not something I want to give up but no more wine coma every night!  Exercise? Every day brings something different, just the way I want it. <insert giant sigh of relief here> I’ve never felt better and I credit Deb 100%. I absolutely could not have gotten here without her guidance and support.” ~ Nichola F.

“Deb’s is by far the best all-around advice I’ve every received.”

“I’ve had a lot of counseling, personal coaching, and nutritional consulting in my life and Deb’s is by far the best all-round advice I’ve ever received. Deb touches on all these aspects plus she adds the spiritual component so I find it helpful on so many levels. I eagerly await my next session.” ~ Jen Lanciault, Certified Yoga Instructor

Imagine:

Coming home to yourself

Knowing the way forward

Feeling confident, ambitious,

and ready to go after your big dreams.

 

It’s time to let me help you find a new path forward so you can fall madly in love with your life.

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