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Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

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We have connected relationships, thriving families and awesome lives because we love and accept ourselves, not the other way around.

But, when I get started with my clients and they come around to believing that to get what they want, they need to love and accept themselves, they ask me…”okay….so….how do I do that?”

To be completely honest, it's not a "three steps" or "21 day challenge" kind of a thing. It's more like a journey.

So, let's set our GPS to the intersection of self-acceptance ave…

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Shadow Integration 101: Projections

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DO YOU KNOW WHAT "PROJECTION" IS?

It's when people place their own negative traits, emotions, flaws or impulses onto another in order to not have to face it in themselves.

This can actually happen with positive attributes too 🙂

Basic gist - "you spot it, you've got it" or when you point one finger at another, three fingers point back at you ;) 

This is why, when we judge another, it says more about us than it does about the other person.

And this is always an exiled, orphaned or disowned p…

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How To Connect When Your Teen Is Focused on Their Phone

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When My Kids Were Little, They Talked To Me

Sure I got the standard, “Fine” when I asked, “How was school?” or “Nothing,” when I asked what they did, but as we did activities together or as I snuggled them at night, they’d tell me things. Things they did and things they wanted, silly things and meaningful things.

As they’ve become teenagers, those conversations have started to dry up a little. As I see less of them, I notice my desire to reconnect at the end of the school day. I work from ho…

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Love Ourselves: Let's Replace Love with Include

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It's so hard to "love" parts of ourselves that we've spent our lives trying to "not be".

But what if it was less personal and more, neutral.

Like a thing we have to do in order to get to the fulfillment, inner peace and connection that we all want? Maybe the word "love" trips us up and the better word is "include."

Can you INCLUDE all aspects of yourself? Even those parts of you that you try hard not to be? 

This is the journey of being inclusive - to integrate all parts of ourselves into w…

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Self-Love is a Way of Being, Not Another Thing To Do

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It's so easy to neglect self-care because we have too much to do. We KNOW that if we were to take care of ourselves, everything else would be easier and better, but we just can't do it (for a myriad of reasons hidden behind "I don't have the time"). Nevertheless, I recommend we look at it differently.

What if Self-Love is more of how we "be" in the world and the tiny little choices we make all day, rather than "another thing to do on your list?" 

What if it's the way we act all day long - can …

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The Void Left When My Son Went To College

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The house feels different, dinners feel different. It’s not exactly a “missing him” feeling. It’s more like something feels off. 

It feels right in many ways. The 18 years of nurturing and preparing, his launch into the world is predictable, bittersweet. It’s developmentally spot on. It’s that time. It’s a pretty “normal thing to do.”

That he’s happy and adjusting well makes it easier, but the absence is ever present. It’s palpable. The way that his absence has left a void, an emptiness. Not…

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If You're Blaming Him For Your Unhappiness, You're Not Ready to Leave

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Note: This message isn’t for anyone in an abusive or toxic marriage. Your safety and health are most important.

In 2010, my marriage was falling apart.

It totally seemed easier to give up.

The idea of focusing on making our marriage better seemed daunting and, sad to say … hopeless. In my mind, I created a fantasy life where I lived with my kids in a cute apartment living a “free” life. I tapped into this fantasy whenever things were particularly crappy and I needed to feel a sense of contr…

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An Important Tip to Become a Better Listener

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I saw this on Facebook today: "Normalize not sharing a relatable story about yourself when someone shares something about themselves, and just listen." 

(note: normalizing doesn't mean eliminating, so don't feel bad if you do this - there is a time and a place for everything!)

I know how hard this is, and most people think that this is showing the person that they're not alone or that they can relate. And yes, at times it can be more of a competition, but I'm not sure that's the most com…

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Afraid of Being Seen as Lazy?

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I know (many) moms who secretly wish they would get sick or end up in the hospital just so they could feel justified in resting, sleeping and doing nothing! 

When you think about slowing down or resting do you immediately think "lazy?"

Do you relax and then feel guilty for doing nothing? Does your tough inner critic tell you to stop being lazy? Or question whether you deserve to rest when there are so many things that need to be done?

Here's the thing - this guilt and self-talk puts more pres…

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Is Being Busy a Way To Avoid Living Intentionally?

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It seems like there's a lot more to do these days – more email to check, more Jones' to keep up with, more events to attend, more activities to schedule.

Doesn’t it? 

But also, like being busy is something to be proud of. 

And if you're not busy, people think there must be something wrong with you.

And yet, I think there's something more to this.

Have we decided that we're only valuable if we're busy and productive?

Maybe it doesn’t even matter WHAT we're doing, as long as we're always doin…

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