NEW

What Does Spirituality Mean to You?

When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Smoothie Recipes

“Introduction to Green Smoothies” Smoothies ~ Perfect for Kids, Created by my Kids! The Bodie-O Berry Mix Yields: 18-20 oz. 1 Banana 1.5 cups of Mixed Frozen Berries (Raspberries, Blueberries, Blackberries, and Strawberries) 1 cup of Orange or Tangerine Juice 3/4 Cup...

You Are Always In Choice ~ The Power of Paradox

We are inundated with choices. We worry that people will judge us for our choices. We fear that we will make the wrong choice and be disappointed. When we make a choice, we experience loss – loss of that which we did not choose. Every day, we have to choose which...

Time, The Great Equalizer

I suspect that almost everyone feels that there is just not enough time in the day. So much to do, so little time. We are chronically feeling pulled in too many directions and feeling that it is impossible to live in this very moment, when this moment is really all we...

Meditation…are you curious?

Meditation has been repeatedly proven to reduce stress levels, reduce blood pressure, increase circulation, strengthen your immune system, relieve chronic pain, improve sleep, reduce anxiety, improve memory and decision making, and maybe even slow aging! And there is...

Breathing Exercise

Inspiration in Action by Deb Blum Inspiration: Your breathing is your greatest friend. Return to it in all your troubles and you will find comfort and guidance. ~The Teaching of Buddhist Master Action: Breathing exercises can reduce stress, increase energy, and...

Happiness is an Inside Job

Inspiration in Action by Deb Blum Inspiration: Instead of seeking outside of ourselves, we need to go to the source and realize who we really are. ~Deepak Chopra’s 8-Week Happiness Series (Week 3, Authentic Self-Esteem) Action: Ask yourself: “What void is so big in my...

One Way to Make the World a Better Place

Got problems? The world certainly seems to have lots of problems. It seems overwhelming – how can we get ourselves out of the mess we are in? So much fear, war, anger, hate, deceit, self-serving behaviors and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. The solutions to these...

Fear of Criticism’s Impact on Being Yourself

How do you feel about criticism? Do you do everything you can do avoid it? Does your fear of criticism hold you back from being your true self? "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind." ~Dr. Seuss For...

Live In The Present

Inspiration in Action by Deb Blum Inspiration: “The big horrible thing isn’t the plane crash or the earthquake or the diagnosis. When those things occur, we act, we know what to do. We live or we die. Hell is what we do in the meantime. It is the way we starve our...

You are humanity's greatest hope.

Get Your "Be More You" Guide Here

Have you noticed that everyone seems so busy…maybe even “too busy?” Busy has become a badge of honor, a status symbol. I’m starting to get a little tired of being busy all the time, are you? Let’s explore what’s really going on here.

It surely does feel like there’s a lot more to do – more email to check, more events to attend, more activities to schedule – doesn’t it? And yet, there is something more to this. Have we decided that we are only valuable if we are busy and productive?

Maybe it doesn’t even matter WHAT we are doing, as long as we are always doing. (Sigh)

Is being busy keeping us from what we really want?

Sometimes I notice myself “getting busy” to avoid facing uncomfortable feelings, to distract myself from what’s really going on in my life, or to procrastinate on something that I would like to avoid handling. Admit it, we all do this.

I think that being busy and telling people and ourselves how busy we are may actually be keeping us from what we really need to be doing. You know, the things that will provide us with a genuine sense of belonging, connection, and self-worth. I think that is what most of us are seeking, right? But we hide behind being busy because we are…well, we are a bit afraid we will never get the things we long for.

Maybe our real work is in finding the courage to get less busy so we can be focusing on what matters most to our souls.

I don’t want to miss out on something better…

Maybe you are thinking “I like to be busy – it’s fun and I am doing all sorts of good things.” Consider, on the other hand, that you are so busy doing GOOD things that you may be missing the BEST things – the juicy things that make you feel most alive. Maybe you are so busy, you aren’t noticing what you are missing. Are you curious what that could be? I sure am…

Well, if you want to find out, it’s time to consider slowing down.

“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” ~Socrates

6 practical tips for slowing down:

  • Stop saying that you are “so busy.” If our thoughts create our reality…what reality are you creating?
  • Stop saying “I should…” There are very few things that MUST be done. Notice where you put unnecessary pressure on yourself – does your house need to be spotless? do you tell yourself that you must drive for every field trip? do you think you need to exercise every day? Maybe all of this “should-ing on yourself’ is interfering with that you really want…just consider the possibility! Download a tool to help you ditch the “shoulds” and start doing what you want to do!
  • Ask for help. You don’t need to do it alone. Sometimes we are in the habit of doing everything, but when we reflect, we see that our partners and children can pitch in.
  • Get good at saying no. Can you make a list of how you want to spend your time? Get clear on what you consider to be in alignment with your values, who you are and what you want in life. Then, when asked to volunteer, go out, participate in an event, etc…you will be in a better place to make decisions that are in sync with your priorities.
  • Change “I can’t” to “I won’t.” Generally speaking, if you say “I can’t, I am too busy,” you really mean “I won’t.” It’s empowering to be in control of how you spend your time. In your mind, swap “I can’t” with “I won’t” before you make a decision. It’s
  • YOU making conscious choices about where you will and won’t spend your time. The truth is that we always make time for what we really want to do.
  • Change your thinking around sleep. Sleep IS a productive and useful way to spend your time. Try to get more of it.
    “Sleep is one of the most important predictors of how long you will live — as important as whether you smoke, exercise, or have high blood pressure or cholesterol…Unhealthy sleep remains American’s largest, deadliest, most costly, and least studied health problem.” ~William C. Dement, MD, PhD, Stanford Center for Sleep Sciences

What’s wrong with doing nothing sometimes?

Do you ever relax and then feel guilty about doing nothing? This guilt just puts more pressure on us and we end up over-stressed – stressed if we are too busy and stressed when we decide it’s time to relax. It’s kind of crazy, isn’t it? Let’s cut ourselves (and each other) some slack!

Slowing down might give you a chance to get to know yourself better.

But I wonder, are you feeling a little scared to slow down? Wondering if you want to face those things that you know are lurking, but you are trying really hard to avoid facing? Uh-huh, I get that.

If some feelings come up, it’s ok to face them. It’s never as bad as you think it will be. I promise that you will be able to handle anything that comes up when you decide to slow down and do less.

Really.

It’s about slowing down to hear what’s really up for you (what is true for you in your heart) and it’s about getting “in choice” so you can do the things that are important to you (so you can start enjoying THIS life right now).

The juice is in the conversation my friends…please comment below to tell me what your experience is around “being busy.” Do you have words of wisdom? Fears? Something else to share? We all want to hear what you have to say!

Namaste my friend

P.S. Slowing down includes your mind. Most of us have very busy minds – analyzing, worrying, planning, examining. Right? I know it’s true. My mind is crazy busy…but it’s (mostly) no longer busy with worry, fears, self-criticism, and judgment – usually just exciting new ideas, gratitude and joy…seriously. But it takes facing the truth and getting to know yourself again to get through the crappy over-thinking, over-analyzing, worrying, comparing, and fear-based mind stuff.

Stick with me and you will notice shifts. Please share this with a busy friend or two if you think they might like it!

 

Click here to read more expanded perspectives on Personal Growth.

 

 

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This