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The Void Left When My Kid Went To College

The house feels different, it’s not exactly a “missing him” feeling. It’s more like something feels off. It’s right in many ways. The 18 years of nurturing and preparing, the launch into the world is predictable, bittersweet. It’s developmentally spot on. It’s that time.

What it Takes to Go From Exhausted to Enlivened

Keeping up a personal is exhausting…being the real you is enlivening!

What Does Spirituality Mean to You?

When I have a chance to actually discuss the topic with clients, it is very simple to explain my view of spirituality, understand my clients’ perspective, and come to a common ground semantically (and often philosophically). I notice I regularly attract people who...

Smoothie Recipes

“Introduction to Green Smoothies” Smoothies ~ Perfect for Kids, Created by my Kids! The Bodie-O Berry Mix Yields: 18-20 oz. 1 Banana 1.5 cups of Mixed Frozen Berries (Raspberries, Blueberries, Blackberries, and Strawberries) 1 cup of Orange or Tangerine Juice 3/4 Cup...

You Are Always In Choice ~ The Power of Paradox

We are inundated with choices. We worry that people will judge us for our choices. We fear that we will make the wrong choice and be disappointed. When we make a choice, we experience loss – loss of that which we did not choose. Every day, we have to choose which...

Time, The Great Equalizer

I suspect that almost everyone feels that there is just not enough time in the day. So much to do, so little time. We are chronically feeling pulled in too many directions and feeling that it is impossible to live in this very moment, when this moment is really all we...

Meditation…are you curious?

Meditation has been repeatedly proven to reduce stress levels, reduce blood pressure, increase circulation, strengthen your immune system, relieve chronic pain, improve sleep, reduce anxiety, improve memory and decision making, and maybe even slow aging! And there is...

Breathing Exercise

Inspiration in Action by Deb Blum Inspiration: Your breathing is your greatest friend. Return to it in all your troubles and you will find comfort and guidance. ~The Teaching of Buddhist Master Action: Breathing exercises can reduce stress, increase energy, and...

Happiness is an Inside Job

Inspiration in Action by Deb Blum Inspiration: Instead of seeking outside of ourselves, we need to go to the source and realize who we really are. ~Deepak Chopra’s 8-Week Happiness Series (Week 3, Authentic Self-Esteem) Action: Ask yourself: “What void is so big in my...

One Way to Make the World a Better Place

Got problems? The world certainly seems to have lots of problems. It seems overwhelming – how can we get ourselves out of the mess we are in? So much fear, war, anger, hate, deceit, self-serving behaviors and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. The solutions to these...

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January 29, 2015: Choosing Self-Kindness over Self-Criticism

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~ C. Joybell C.

If only you could see how awesome you are. If only you could know that other people really love you and internalize that love for yourself. But I know that you are hard on yourself. I know that you believe that if you are critical and have high expectations of yourself, you will fix yourself or be “better.” There might have been a time in your life where it seemed to have helped you – that being willful and demanding of yourself is how you “got successful” or “got through law school.” But I wonder…at what cost? Maybe trying to fix ourselves is the PROBLEM. Perhaps when we drive ourselves hard, we exchange happiness and inner peace for anxiety and pressure. Someday I am going to convince you that you have always been awesome* and there is nothing to fix.

INSPIRATION IN ACTION: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW YOU TALK TO YOURSELF AND TRY TO REPLACE IT WITH KINDER WORDS

 

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