Coach’s Response to the Question: “How do I stop criticizing and snapping at my kids?”

I don’t know anyone who never snaps or criticizes their kids, but I know everyone wishes they did it less. I asked 11 coaches to tell us their point of view on this topic. The challenge for you is to pick the one that resonates MOST with you and practice it for a few...

Some Not Too Lame Family Rules for Smartphone Usage

At some point, most teens will have a smartphone and will prefer that it’s attached to them at all times. My 12-year-old son literally went from his phone never being charged to him wanting it attached to his body at all times. The good news is that I now know that...

Why I’m Glad I Shattered my iPhone Screen

  “To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ―Alexander Pope, An Essay on Criticism I finally made the decision to get the iPhone 6 plus. The truth is, I vacillated on it because I feared it would be too big and awkward. Once I got it, I was pretty excited and fell...

Follow Your Joy, Teens Wreaking Havoc & What Great Parents Do

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT “Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.” ~Joseph Campbell “People who follow their joy experience the fullness of their being,” says Robert Holden. How do we follow our joy? There is...

Raising Kids Who Are Good, Kind People Still Matters

Responsibility and kindness are important to many parents In a survey done by Pew Research in the Fall of 2014, it came out that the quality that most parents want to teach their children is responsibility. In groups that identify as consistently liberal, coming in...

Smartphones: the Good, the Bad, & the Sexty

Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky.” ~ Brene Brown My oldest son is 12 and I am noticing him keeping his phone right by his side, trying to look at it...

What Great Parents Do Well

Donald Miller, author of the new book Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, reports that healthy and high-functioning people often have parents who do not hide their flaws, especially from their own children. “Healthy people tend to come from...

15 Parents Share their Thoughts about Technology and Our Kids

This week, at our local public middle school, we hosted a Principal’s Coffee chat where technology was the topic. In small groups, we brainstormed about the upsides to technology and the things we wonder (and worry) about…the questions that are swirling in our brains....

It’s Too Late, You Snapped at Your Kid. Now What?

So you snapped. Maybe you overreacted or said something you wished you didn’t say. Yes, it’s true, it’s the human condition – we are imperfect. (I like to say that we are perfectly imperfect) It doesn’t mean we just resign ourselves to reactive behaviors. We should do...

Use Common Sense with Digital Media

Last night I went to an event where the founder of Common Sense Media, Jim Steyer, spoke. It was interesting on many levels so I wanted to share what I learned 🙂 About Common Sense Media Do you use their website for your family? Quite honestly it’s been our go-to...

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Even if you’re a nervous system regulation ninja, times like this can get us dysregulated. And the health of our nervous system impacts our patience levels, our anxiety levels, our reactivity, our ability to stay present, our sleep, our productivity…and, because our kids co-regulate TO US, it impacts our kids. So there are many benefits to making this a priority. (Check out this podcast episode to better understand our kids “bad” behaviors and how their behavior relates to our nervous systems)


• Reduce your consumption of the news and social media. We all know that it’s designed to suck us in and stoke the flames of fear. Yes, stay updated, but as quickly as you can, pull yourself away.
• Practice gratitude and have a positive bias toward circumstances and people. Gratitude is one of the most effective tools for well-being. If you want to involve your kids, you can create a gratitude jar and put one thing in the jar each day.
• Keep a regular exercise practice. Consider Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gong, light jogging, hiking, and walking. If it’s possible, get out into nature. Explore online programs like BeachBody OnDemand, Steezy Online Dance or for workout classes streamed right to your home. See if you can get your kids to work out with you!
• Initiate a regular meditation practice. Check out the Insight Timer or apps. Ask your kids if they have some mindfulness tools they can teach you. Here are some ongoing live streaming meditations:

Copper Beech
Tara Brach Facebook Lives
Free Daily Meditation from Health Journeys

• Play is so good for our nervous systems! Carve out time each day to play, or to create art or listen to (or play) music. Play board games, do puzzles, roll around on the floor, make forts, sing songs, dance.
• Prioritize your relationships. It’s normal to have an adjustment period as you and your family are confined to your homes. Our relationships are the most important thing we all have, so spend time adjusting, reconnecting and finding your way together. Supportive relationships are good for our nervous systems.


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