Coach’s Response to the Question: “How do I stop criticizing and snapping at my kids?”

I don’t know anyone who never snaps or criticizes their kids, but I know everyone wishes they did it less. I asked 11 coaches to tell us their point of view on this topic. The challenge for you is to pick the one that resonates MOST with you and practice it for a few...

Some Not Too Lame Family Rules for Smartphone Usage

At some point, most teens will have a smartphone and will prefer that it’s attached to them at all times. My 12-year-old son literally went from his phone never being charged to him wanting it attached to his body at all times. The good news is that I now know that...

Why I’m Glad I Shattered my iPhone Screen

  “To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ―Alexander Pope, An Essay on Criticism I finally made the decision to get the iPhone 6 plus. The truth is, I vacillated on it because I feared it would be too big and awkward. Once I got it, I was pretty excited and fell...

Follow Your Joy, Teens Wreaking Havoc & What Great Parents Do

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT “Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.” ~Joseph Campbell “People who follow their joy experience the fullness of their being,” says Robert Holden. How do we follow our joy? There is...

Raising Kids Who Are Good, Kind People Still Matters

Responsibility and kindness are important to many parents In a survey done by Pew Research in the Fall of 2014, it came out that the quality that most parents want to teach their children is responsibility. In groups that identify as consistently liberal, coming in...

Smartphones: the Good, the Bad, & the Sexty

Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky.” ~ Brene Brown My oldest son is 12 and I am noticing him keeping his phone right by his side, trying to look at it...

What Great Parents Do Well

Donald Miller, author of the new book Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, reports that healthy and high-functioning people often have parents who do not hide their flaws, especially from their own children. “Healthy people tend to come from...

15 Parents Share their Thoughts about Technology and Our Kids

This week, at our local public middle school, we hosted a Principal’s Coffee chat where technology was the topic. In small groups, we brainstormed about the upsides to technology and the things we wonder (and worry) about…the questions that are swirling in our brains....

It’s Too Late, You Snapped at Your Kid. Now What?

So you snapped. Maybe you overreacted or said something you wished you didn’t say. Yes, it’s true, it’s the human condition – we are imperfect. (I like to say that we are perfectly imperfect) It doesn’t mean we just resign ourselves to reactive behaviors. We should do...

Use Common Sense with Digital Media

Last night I went to an event where the founder of Common Sense Media, Jim Steyer, spoke. It was interesting on many levels so I wanted to share what I learned 🙂 About Common Sense Media Do you use their website for your family? Quite honestly it’s been our go-to...

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Bring your attention to your physical sensations in your body

Feel the chair under your butt, your feet on the ground. Notice your breath and what it does. Pay attention to sensations in your body – heat, coolness, tingling, tension. Put your attention there. Notice what it feels like to have the air on your skin. Your socks rubbing on your feet. Notice the saliva in your mouth. Lightly run one or two fingers over your lips. Notice if you feel some anxiety and instead of pushing it away, stay with it for a couple of moments. Offer yourself some compassion and care.

Spend a couple of minutes focusing on your breath

Slow your breath down. Count your breath. Notice the air coming in and out of your nostrils. Focus on your out breath to calm down. Focus on breathing in through your nose expanding your belly, holding for 1-2 seconds when full, then exhaling and pressing all the air out and pressing belly button to your spine. Do this 5 times.

Use your imagination

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Focus on positive feelings or peaceful imagery while breathing – think of someone you love, have gratitude, self-compassion, etc.

Ground yourself using one of these techniques

• Lean back when you feel angry
• Lean toward when you want to run away/escape
• Elongate your out breath
• Feel your feet on the floor
• Feel your bottom on the chair
• Look at your hands
• Do 10 seconds of jumping jacks
• Do 5 pushups or hold plank for 15 seconds
• Count to 10
• Put your hand on your heart
• Imagine you are a tree and that you have roots that go deep into the ground

And here’s the bonus…when you reduce your stress levels and calm your nervous system, your immune system is strengthened as well!

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